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Even though many people still cling to "traditional values" and tend to stigmatize those who live their relationships according to their own ideas, social mores are nevertheless evolving towards a freer sexuality. Separated, widowed, or single seniors increasingly want to have new life experiences. Since there's no age at which one should "let oneself go," why not get intimate on the first date? Let's delve deeper into this topic.
Sexuality Is Important - Even In Later Years
It's a misconception to believe that after the age of 50, desire and sex lose their significance. Why would age diminish the enjoyment of physical pleasures? Often, those over 50 feel more liberated and have more time for themselves. So, why wait? If both parties consent and feel comfortable, why not indulge in physical pleasure on the first date? After fifty, there's less fear of "judgment," and one no longer worries as much about their image. They own their actions and have nothing to "prove" anymore. If the desire is there, why not act on it? With a good feeling in mind and body, people over 50 flirt and seduce with confidence, for example on our website... ;-)
Why Have Sex on the First Date?
Why give in to temptation on the first date? To express one's freedom to act, to satisfy an irresistible desire for sex, to experience an orgasm, to test compatibility with a partner before considering a relationship, or because it's exciting to sleep with someone new on the first date... There are many reasons. It's rare for men to refuse sex on the first date (isn't that right, gentlemen?) – although it does happen. Unlike men, women tend to be more reserved, often flirting and kissing their date, perhaps engaging in some foreplay, but stopping short of going all the way and waiting for a second date. Why this hesitation?
Society's View
Even as sexual norms become more liberated, the following observation remains true: a woman who has sex on the first date is often seen in our society as "easy" – or even as a nymphomaniac – unlike her male counterpart. If a woman has sex on the first date, men often assume she does this with everyone. Aside from the "bad image" she might project, many men fear that she behaves this way with every male acquaintance. Does sex on the first date imply that the woman has an extensive sexual past? If so, doesn't she have the right to enjoy sex? Are men still influenced by an old ideology that leads them to prefer a partner with limited sexual experience? Fortunately, men's attitudes are changing, and a confident woman who embraces her sexuality is increasingly attractive: the liberated behavior of a lover who isn't afraid to give in to her desires is appealing! It suggests she is free, self-assured, and therefore bold and experienced.
No Time to Lose, Carpe Diem...
Some people intentionally wait to heighten and savor the desire before having sex for the first time. Why not? But dating can take a lot of time and effort (and sometimes even money). For many, sex serves as a barometer to determine if all the effort is worthwhile. So why go through several dates only to find out there’s no chemistry? If you have good sex on the first date, you’re starting on a solid foundation for a fulfilling future relationship. Conversely, if it's evident that you’re incompatible, having sex will make it clear. You won’t have to endure multiple dates only to realize it was all a waste of time.
In Conclusion
The act itself shouldn’t be an obstacle if you feel something for each other and are clear about your intentions. If you want to enjoy the moment without worrying about tomorrow, then savor these delightful moments! You both decide the course of your relationship, and there's nothing shameful about expressing your desires and feeling the intensity of the connection instantly. Even with the strong pressures of society, family, and religion, it’s not healthy to condemn yourself for an experience that brought you joy.
Is a physical relationship on the first date a deal-breaker for you? If so, why? Or do you fully embrace this act? Your stories interest us!
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Editor, 27.06.2024
