katieee wrote: I have been in female led/bdsm relationships for most of my life. I have been part of the scene lifestyle but also held private loving relationships.
I adore submissive men however what is difficult is finding that rare breed of submissive male who yearns to submit to his Mistress but to all intents and purposes is an alpha confident male to friends and family.
Do you think the same traits can exist in the same person?
HI Katiee - I am new to the site and just saw your post.
Within my FLR with my wife I am submissive and a cross dresser. But in the real world I am an alpha male - like football, I am ( nicely) aggressive - let's say competitive - and to all intents and purposes others would see me as 'bloke'.
But to women - and especially my wife - I am submissive. So yes - the traits you are seeking can exist in the same person. I am living proof.