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[maxine246]

To be clear, this is not about a young person dating an older man, but about a woman who is in her mid-sixties considering dating a much older man. Lets suppose his age is 75 years. What do you think, should she?

Her hesitation is partly around the practical matters pertinent to aging, such as possible failing health. And what are the prospects for such a relationship in terms of how many years might they have together?

[Graham1]

I think we should ignore the age and consider more the person and personality. Age is just a number and older people can be young at heart just as younger people can be older in their outlook on life. I believe in living for today because we cannot know what tomorrow might bring.

[Guest]

I agree with Graham. Youth is no guarantee of good health. If two people are compatible, age is irrelevant. My vote is for you to go for it, cherish each day that you have together. We don't know what tomorrow will bring, so embrace today.

"Looking back on the memory of
The dance we shared 'neath the stars above
For a moment all the world was right
How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye
And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I'd have had to miss the dance"

[grangie]

I love the poem Damarus...last 2 lines are so true!

And I agree with you and Graham...if you get a chance at happiness take it with both hands.

[Firefly64]

Hey Damarus, Garth Brooks' song expressed it very well, didn't it?

[Graham1]

I dont know if youve seen the film "Field of Dreams" but the subject of missed opportunities is dealt with very well. In the film, characters are given the opportunity of going back to do things they regretted later in their lives. Its a good moral lesson.

[grangie]

Didnt realise that was a Garth Brooks song..found it on youtube.
Thanks Firefly!

[maxine246]

There's a TV series "Twice in a Lifetime" which deals with this theme, Graham1 - that of going back to set right whatever one did wrong or messed up or missed doing the first lifetime around. Its quite heartwarming!

[Genevra]

I say, when in Doubt, DON'T DO IT!!!!!

Those are my words of wisdom to "your friend" OP........

[Guest]

Listen to your gut... When in doubt don't do it..
However in saying that .. Age is only a number... To be happy and content with some one who loves you and who you love is a wonderful thing ...
But always , always , listen to your gut ...
Chicklet

[Ellie149]

Maxine --

Average longevity for males today is approx. 79 years, with higher estimates at 83-4. Having said that, some will live to be 100 and over, as empirical evidence indicates.

There is no good advice for this woman's problem, not that it should even be offered, but I will say this: to marry this 75 year-old, she'd better love or like him a lot, as at that age failing health is a viable prospect; there is the problem of adropause and bad sex; and finally, men tend to grow grumpy with age, to the opposite of women, who after menopause actually revert to cheerful.

Ultimately, the important thing here is whether the companionship and warmth this relationship offers outweighs the risk of the above considerations or of losing the partner! Let's remember what the wise man said: "Better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved ."

Ellie

[Genevra]

Well said ELLIE.......sooo true too!!

But, just think of the SMILES he will give her.......



He may make his Scooter a 2 seater........lol

[sliver]

lmao @ that pic, good one!

[camaro67]

dear maxine, when i was married or in a relationship, i never woke up grumpy, i let her sleep!lol!

[JadeStone]

LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO ALLOW AGE TO DETERMINE A PERSONS' SUITABILITY FOR RELATIONSHIPS ... IT IS JUST A "NUMBER" AFTER ALL!!

ENJOY LIFE AND ALL THE WONDERFUL PEOPLE IN IT ... AND YOU CAN NEVER GO WRONG!!